Straight out of Barbie’s and Straight Into Cardi B: The Transformation of our Daughters.

When did this happen- our sweet, innocent daughters who once happily played with their Barbie dolls, are now twerking and rapping along to the explicit lyrics of Cardi B. I’ve heard mom’s say, It’s like something clicked on their 9th Birthday Maybe not to this degree, but to a level where they go from timid girls to talking back. 

What happened to the days when the most scandalous thing they did was dress Barbie in her tiny, plastic mini-skirt? 

As mothers, we've always hoped to instill in our girls a sense of class, dignity, and self-respect or maybe it's just me, maybe I am living in the old days as my daughter would probably say. 

As a mothers, teen development coach and life coach 

I believe this is where the battle for their self-worth truly begins. As mothers, we find ourselves in the crosshairs of a culture that glamorizes superficiality and undermines the timeless virtues we hold dear. Where once we could shield our daughters from the relentless barrage of airbrushed perfection, now they are inundated with the false idols of social media - influencers whose entire persona is built upon the illusion of flawlessness. 

Is it safe to say we must stand firm and fight for the values that truly empower our girls - the courage to be authentic, the grace to be humble, the strength to be modest. 

What are some realist solutions to reintroducing these qualities that will serve them well, not just in the fickle world of popularity, but in the profound journey of self-discovery and lasting fulfillment? 

May I propose an idea…....to organize a mother and daughter sleep over with maybe 2-3 other moms and daughters who you are close with and have an authentic discussion on how you as a mom can be more supportive in your daughter's development. Mom, it’s also important to share that your fears are formed from the dangers of the world, and not from a place of distrust. One fun thing that I’ve done with my daughter is learning each other's love language. 

Now this idea will only work by making it fun - incorporate a movie, delicious food, snacks and prizes. 

We must boldly reclaim the narrative and champion the timeless virtues that will equip our daughter’s to navigate the complexities of modern life with unwavering grace and self-assurance. By creating intentional spaces for open and vulnerable dialogue, we can foster a profound sense of connection, understanding, and mutual growth. This is not about restricting or stifling their spirits, but about empowering them to cultivate an unshakable foundation of inner strength and resilience. Let us challenge the superficial standards of success and popularity, and instead, inspire our daughters to seek fulfillment in the depths of their own unique talents, passions, and authentic expression. 

Moms, I challenge you to come up with some creative ideas to have this dialogue with your daughter or a young lady in your life.